In today’s society, one of the things that we tend to struggle with is living in complete confidence in who we are. A lot of the time, the world tells us that we have to look and act a certain way in order to be fully accepted. Breaking free from these societal norms and encouraging others along the way, plus sized model and body positivity activist Gabby Fe is using her platform not just to uplift herself, but to spread this boldness and confidence to others who have been made to feel self-conscious about themselves, their looks and their world of sobriety.
When interviewing Gabby Fe, we were able to dive into her experience with her loved ones addiction, how she was able to cope in a healthy way and what she has learned along the way:
Soberocity [S]: What led you to want to take your platform to the music industry?
Gabby [G]: I knew I wanted to be a singer and do music since I was 4 years old. I manifested it and now I’m living it.
[S]: Through your platforms, what are the issues that you are trying to get others to dive deep into?
[G]: I want others to live their truest selves without fear of rejection or the urge to try to fit into the status quo. We were born to stand out.
[S]: Can you recall of anyone in your audience that you’ve touched through your work?
[G]: Many girls have DM’d me on Instagram, asking me how I’m so confident and how I’m so brave to wear a bikini and post it on social media. My response is always, “God made me this way and I’m proud to be me. I love every inch of my body. I love every curve and imperfection”.
[S]: Did/Do you ever find it difficult to talk about your loved ones who struggled with sobriety?
[G]: Yes. It’s really hard to talk about it because all I want to do is help, but I can’t make that decision for them. They have to love themselves enough to get the help that they need.
[S]: Was there anything about sobriety and/or addiction that you learned from your loved ones?
[G]: What I learned about addiction is it’s all fun and games until you get hooked. Addiction goes through your mind until you get your next fix. I learned that you need to have accountability and speak to someone about it. Don’t shun your love ones away. They are there for a reason. To love you and guide you to sobriety.
[S]: What was it like having to watch your loved ones’ struggle with sobriety?
[G]: It was damaging. As a young kid, having to endure all the lies that they tell in order to save face and get another fix is sad because you begin to lose trust in them. You can’t trust that they are telling you the truth because they have a habit.
[S]: What are some healthy coping mechanisms you’d suggest to someone who is dealing with a loved one who is struggling with sobriety?
[G]: Healthy coping mechanisms I would suggest to someone who is dealing with a loved one who is struggling with sobriety is first admitting to yourself that their decision to remain sober is not in your control. Accept the things that you cannot control. The next thing I would suggest is to seek professional help for your loved ones. The third thing I would suggest is to love them without putting pressure on them to stop. It’s not your job to get them to stop. It’s your job to love them well.
[S]: What do you think needs to be done in order to successfully help youth who have drug-addicted family members?
[G]: Counseling helps. Talking to a school counselor about it helps.
[S]: Do you ever wish that you grew up in a different environment? Why or Why not?
[G]: No, my environment helped me become the woman that I am today and I’m proud of that woman. I wouldn’t change my problems for someone else’s. We live in an imperfect world. Take what you get and spin it for good.
[S]: Are there any new projects we can anticipate seeing from you in the near future?
[G]: Yes. My newest single, Music Fades To Black, drops on December 6 on all major platforms; so stream it! Also, I’m performing a show at The Well in Brooklyn on the same night, December 6th, at 7pm. I would love to see all of you beautiful people there.
As she continues to pave the way for others, not letting her past or the standards of society hold her back, Gabby Fe is flourishing, showing people how they, too, can live confidently. She not only wants people to live sober and warm lives, but to learn to truly love themselves and know that they aren’t alone in this battle of self-confidence. Make sure to check out her latest single, Music Fades To Black !